There is a reason why the United Nations report on “Femicide” claims 1 in every 3 women worldwide are subjected to violence during their lifetime. I think that violence is rooted in sexual unfaithfulness. This seventh commandment deals with that root of violence:
“You shall not commit adultery (Exodus 20: 14).
This commandment shows us how much God loves us and wants us to enjoy our family life. Oh, how He loves women and children and intends them to be protected and loved! When this commandment is kept, marriages are preserved. It acts as a fence around marriage and the family (Reisinger, p. 74-75). This prohibition against adultery shows how much God loves marriage. He hates divorce because He loves marriage. Divorce is a violent act because it rends a family apart (Malachi 2:16).
Yet, as much as God hates divorce, He sees that sexual unfaithfulness in the act or in the mind destroys the intimacy of those who are married. Jesus spoke about divorce in the context of his teaching about sexual purity. Adultery caused divorce; divorce caused more adultery. He taught that to desire another woman and think about her was adultery of the heart. Sexual purity saved marriage intimacy. He urged taking drastic steps to preserve it (Matthew 5: 27-32). Marriage intimacy for life cannot long survive adultery.
The Greek and Roman cultures did not honor marriage and sexual purity. So even homosexuality and preying on children were common. Therefore, Paul, writing to new Christians coming from these cultures specified fornication (sex before marriage), and homosexuality and incest as unclean activities, forbidden by this seventh commandment (Romans 1:24-27; Hebrews 13:4; Galatians 5:19; I Cor. 5:1). Our Western Cultures have reverted more and more to these pre-Christian roots, and now, not only our families, but our nations are suffering the consequences.
Biblical marriage as blessed by God was to be between a male and a female only, for their comfort and for the safety and good of their children (Genesis 1:27-28; Gen. 2:23-25). Of course, men are not the only sexual offenders! The Proverbs are full of warnings about prostitution and seduction (Proverbs 2:16-20; 7:5,21-22), and the Old Testament as well (2 Kings 23:7, Deut. 23:17-18; Lev. 19:29). Ezekiel used two women as symbols of people from Samaria and Jerusalem who used their memory and visual images to excite their sexual lust (Ezekiel 23). Their countries were severely disciplined by God for this immorality. And what awaits our nation with pornography easily available to even our youth on the internet? Some fences would be a good idea. Peter speaks graphically about those who have professed Christianity, and even called themselves teachers, yet fell back into sexual immorality. It is a frightening passage about those who indulge their lusts and despise being told how to live. Take a moment and read 2 Peter 2 in light of this seventh commandment.
God loves marriage. Love your marriage enough to build security fences around it. For instance, hold each other accountable for who you are talking to on facebook. Facebook is involved in most divorce cases today in one way or another. To prove whereabouts, to show relationships etc. Old flames reignite adulterous feelings and can destroy a marriage. Another fence might be to have an open computer showing all sites visited. Or do simple things like taking a walk together, or reading the same book and talking about it. Love your marriage as God does, and take care that sexual lust and desires never cross the line into other relationships.
But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks (Ephesians 5:3-4).