First of all, you must be able to maintain a quiet spirit within yourself. Tranquil and calm. Without conflict or controversy within yourself about the controversy. Settled. You are not raging.
Next, you must be actively doing what you can to resolve the present conflict whether it is in your marriage, extended family, church, community, or world.
No wonder Jesus placed this where He did in the Beatitudes!! A true peacemaker has seen herself for what she is: a sinner through and through. She has mourned her specific sins and her general condition. She is learning to identify her self-centeredness and the desires that grow from it. She is meeker than she used to be. And she longs to do what is right, to love her Lord with her whole heart, and treat others like she would like to be treated. Her heart desire is to see the triune God displayed in all His beauty and perfection and His kingdom of grace expanded. In all humility and without any arrogance, she knows God has blessed her immensely.
Now she is faced with an issue that causes conflict and trouble for those around her. Perhaps it is a disagreement with a friend or family member over abortion or homosexuality. Or who to support for mayor or your district’s representative to the House of Representatives. Or a doctrinal dispute in her church.
She wants peace; she determines some things she can do to resolve the conflicts, then she does them.
SOME CHURCH HISTORY
Thomas Watson was especially grieved by the absence of peace in the religious world of England in the 1660’s. He did what he could to bring the nation together. He helped restore the monarchy. He wanted to keep preaching. But, in order to be at peace with himself and his conscience, he lost it all. The Anglican bishop removed him from his London church. He had no way to support his family. He wrote by candlelight.
Ernest Reisinger was happy in the 1980’s that he did not have to join with those who disagreed with him about election and limited atonement. He was free to go his own way and let them go theirs. (See his biography under “Warm-hearted Calvinists” at www.http://carolbrandt.com or “Ernest Reisinger” by Geoff Thomas, published by Banner of Truth.org.
Martyn Lloyd-Jones experienced the bombing of his church in London during World War II in the 1940’s. He had to send his family out of London for their safety. Later, in the 1960’s, he preached from the Sermon On the Mount. He taught how a Christian could actively pursue peace:
HOW TO MAKE OR MAINTAIN PEACE
1. She is able to look at the situation or issue without self-interest. She does not ask, “What is the effect of this on me?” ” What are my rights here?” She does not demand her way or what would be best for her.
2. She keeps quiet. She controls her tongue. She does not retort when snapped at by others or repeat unkind remarks or slander. She does not “demand her say.” She will keep her opinion to herself if it will inflame other people.
3. She seeks to ask the right questions of herself: “What would be a solution which would glorify God or extend the gospel? ” Am I seeking to extend the knowledge of what God is like or am I only desiring what would benefit me?
4. She seeks a way to relieve the person opposing her or causing the controversy. She is friendly to her sister-in-law if she is the one causing the family trouble! She is approachable and sympathetic to those who take the other side of the issue from herself.
5. She seeks to be like Jesus. She is not just easy-going, not caring about what happens, not taking a stand on a moral or doctrinal issue. But, she is quiet, meek, not stirring up conflict. She is willing to suffer if need be.
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God” (I Peter 3:3-4.).
“Blessed Are the Peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God” (Matthew 5:9).